I will try to be brief. Found out husband was having a very long distance affair with a colleague, whom he sees in person twice a year. They had been messaging a lot for just over a year, and have slept together on several occasions, at work conferences. It is now over, and he is working hard to win back my trust and love, and I am trying to get over the devastation that has been caused.
She is still with her husband and family, and surprisingly has been publicly mooning over my husband on music sites, etc. I know I shouldn't look, but I did. It was a huge trigger, and in the end my DH emailed her and told her to stop, and move on. She emailed back saying she is still in love with him and that she was a victim in all of this...was fragile, couldn't stop crying, etc. With my blessing he responded telling her to read up on affairs, what they are based on (lies and negativity) and to get a grip; that he is very much in love with me, and we are getting ourselves back together. I, however, am furious that she chose to tell him that she is in love with him still. He is not interested, but I really want to contact her and tell her to back off and stop wallowing. WWYD?? I just don't feel I can let it go...she has also tried to contact him 3 times secretly on work intranet/facebook/email. He has not responded.
Thanks for reading.
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FoxyTerrier · 17/12/2013 15:08
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