I've had yet another argument with DH in front of the dc about something silly. I end up raising my voice at him because he makes comments under his breath and I have to drag it out of him what he means.
I then refuse to apologise because I know, on past experience, that he just will forget about it. So I'm left feeling as if the original reason for me getting upset and angry are not dealt with.
I know it's not healthy, I know that I should at the very least not raise my voice and if I do, I should quickly apologise.
But a small part of me cannot bring myself to say sorry because it feels as if somehow I'm conceding that he was right and I'm left to feel like I was completely in the wrong. I know the times when I am, but sometimes DH has to share some of the blame. He's admitted in the past that he only apologises if he thinks it's "deserved" which strikes me as wrong somehow ie not apologising if someone is upset only apologising if he thinks he shouldn't be.
For context I should add that we've got two small ones, that we're tired and stressed with work but it just feels like we're escalating and I'm tired of it. We go in cycles of talking about it, but ultimately we end up back to fighting over stupid stuff.
Can anyone relate to this and give me words of advice?
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Controlling my temper and not feeling listened to
SteamWisher · 01/12/2013 10:47
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