I have been an idiot - so so stupid that I think my brain might be broken.
I had a fling with someone I shouldn't have, he's single and I was very recently separated at the time (I think my marriage break down affected my judgement) and TBH the actual fling part of things ended a while ago but his behaviour has people joking about us, all fun and games but the joking is full of embarrassing truths that would result in some great gossip and difficult explanations if it was properly discovered!
I want to move on and pretend this year didn't happen but I see the fling man every day (not a co-worker though) I'm still very a little bit sexually attracted to him and every day he stares at me and acts like a teenage boy whenever I'm around him and people continue to talk and laugh about how "cute" he is. It's not cute, I'm fairly sure he's acting this way on purpose.
How are you supposed to move on and kill something like this?
Do you still want to be with him? Forget about other people and go for what you want. I 'lost' a bloke at uni once because he was too concerned about his friends' opinion of me and it still rankles. You won't always know these people who would laugh and say things but you could be together with your sexy guy.
The fling fizzled out, he's still flirty, we send occasional flirty messages, there is still eye contact and longing looks, but I'm quite sure its just a mutual ego boost at this point. I think I scare him actually.
Not entirely inappropriate, but there is a professional relationship that shouldn't be crossed for some good reasons.
If I didn't want to slam him against the nearest wall and remove his clothes quite as badly as I do, I wouldn't mind it continuing, but all this is doing is creating a lot of unresolvable sexual tension for me
Tried no contact. We're barely in contact anyway, and the contact we have during the day is something I can't get out of.
I'm sorry op, I fail to see what the problem is. Your both single and like each other but your worried about other peoples opinions? I thought you were both married or he was your boss or something. The gossips are not part of your relationship. Their opinion shouldn't be part of it.