Hi all,
wondering if I could get some advice from a females perspective.
My partner and I have 2 children, one 3 and another who is 13 weeks old.
After the birth of our second it became apparent that my partner had an issue with a bladder prolapse which has become an obstacle in getting being able to get our sex life back on track. I have been supportive with this and tried to keep my own high sex drive under control and not been a pest to her.
Penetrative sex would be difficult for us, but am I selfish for asking for her to perform oral sex or handjob on me in the meantime?
On the occasion I asked, and tried to be as tactful about it as possible, I was told "why, what am i going to get out of it"? Also, understandably so she says breastfeeding our little one doesn't really make her feel sexy.
Now I understand her position, it must be very frustrating for her, and I am happy to wait if it needs to be like that, but I cant help thinking that helping me out wouldn't be really a big deal?
If roles were reversed I wouldn't mind easing her frustrations as making her happy makes me happy.
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Am I being selfish guy here? - sex after pregnancy issue
blueeyedguy · 27/11/2013 20:53
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