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can you just ask someone for sex?

(412 Posts)
secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 22:45:50

If you suspect that someone fancies you, how wrong is it to just ask them if they'd like some sex?

I'm not up for a relationship at all. But I'd really like some sex.

I don't think subtle is going to work. Or at least it will take too long. Or they might think I want to go out with them.

remind me how this works. It's been a while.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Mon 11-Nov-13 22:47:21

Are you both single for starters? grin

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 22:47:30

You been like a FWB situation? I don't even no how mine started so no idea. It was a long time ago though.

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 22:48:13

You could shout across a crowd 'Yo/Oi, wanna bang?'


YoureBeingASillyBilly Mon 11-Nov-13 22:50:23


But you have to mime hip thrusting while you do it.

picnicbasketcase Mon 11-Nov-13 22:51:29

Absolutely. 'Sex me up, buttercup' usually works.

BOF Mon 11-Nov-13 22:51:50

I think it's widely regarded as a bit of a social faux pas.

MistAllChuckingFrighty Mon 11-Nov-13 22:52:19

Could you try making a round hole with one hand and poke your finger through it, whilst winking and licking your lips ?

Worth a pop ?

SoleSorceress Mon 11-Nov-13 22:53:15

Open your legs, show him your foof!

secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 22:55:58

ROFL I'll work on the thrusting.

No "would you be interested in coming over for a night of drinking and activities up to and possibly including recreational sex?"...

that's not how you do it huh?

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 22:56:31

Or sing 'lets talk about sex baby, lets talk about you and me' at them

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 22:57:08

Straight to the point might work. I was giving you subtle suggestions obviously

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 22:57:54

Save some words and say:

'wanna get pissed and shag?'

secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 22:58:17

SoulSource it's not summer anymore, but I'll put that one in the 'Car Park' for later. <flips A2 sheet>

BillyBanter Mon 11-Nov-13 22:59:08

just say 'Grab your coat, love. You've pulled'

Depends how you normally interact with each other.

scaevola Mon 11-Nov-13 22:59:21

Is it a friend or a random?

secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 23:01:26

Acquaintance. And yes, single smile

secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 23:02:11

I feel like Ralph on the fast show.

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 23:02:44

Well you first need to find out of he is interested in you. Then feel free to go thrusting in his direction grin

scaevola Mon 11-Nov-13 23:03:05

You do need to say something really filthy to him, and see if he looks interested or recoils.

YoureBeingASillyBilly Mon 11-Nov-13 23:03:42

How about asking if they want to do a little dance, make a little love and finally go get down tonight?

GoofyIsACow Mon 11-Nov-13 23:04:45

grin at this thread!

SPsDoesntLikeChaffingFishnets Mon 11-Nov-13 23:05:59

Or mention the film Friends With Benefits and say how you would love something like that.

Yes, I am the queen of been subtle

Weegiemum Mon 11-Nov-13 23:07:17

I'm thinking of trying some of these on my dh!

(Purely for the shock then grin it would elicit).

Sadly, he's working tonight!

secretsatan Mon 11-Nov-13 23:08:46

Filthy. OK.

They don't have to do that on The West Wing, do they? Maybe I should buy him a fish. On telly it's all grown ups flirting in intellectual ways and they still get past the awkwardness and on to the fucking.

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