It's late and I've namechanged... but is it wrong to enjoy it when DH applies tongue to arse?

[verysomething]

Can't believe I'm writing this and I am a respectable married woman, naice ham from Ocado etc... but am I the only one who enjoys this? I told a girlfriend and she was .

Been married 10 years and needless to say I am whistle-clean before I let DH near that area. And it's just for high days and holy days . He's only started doing it in the last couple of years.

Also, um, I did it to him once and he loved it. Made sure he was scrubbed pure as the driven beforehand of course... it was after a wedding and we are in Luuuuurve. Please tell me this is not as kinky as I worry it is?

[verysomething]

well I know things have been weird this week with the AF thing but is there no-one still awake and fired up with saturday night betruthening?

[verysomething]

FFS I can't be that much of a threadkiller is everyone seriously tucked up in bed? WHERE ARE THE OVERNIGHT MODS? BUM TIT WANK GINA FORD ARSE

[verysomething]

report me, I've been bad and even invoked the name of SWMNBN

[DropYourSword]

Hehe. Can I just ask why you're asking? If you like it, then surely that's fine. Why the need for anyone else's approval?

[verysomething]

yes, I rather like it

If you're asking why... it is late, and has been taken this evening

[DropYourSword]

No, you misread what I asked. You like it. Great. Why then worry if it's "as kinky as you think it is"? What's the problem, if you like it and your partner is happy, then go for it. I don't understand why you need anyone else's permission or care about their opinion. I couldn't give a shit if what I get up to in the bedroom is considered kinky or not.

I don't mean this in a rude way either. I'm really just curious as to why you care about what other people think?!

[2blessed]

That's what floats your boat, go forth and enjoy yourself.

[verysomething]

DropYourSword (love your name)

Ordinarily I would not care what others think, but I am in an expansive mood tonight. I thought this was utterly gross when an ex tried it on me 10 years ago and am amazed how it's now something I like. Why was it repulsive in my 20's? Wish I'd been more open minded then

[gamerchick]

I didn't know what you were on about at first...I thought it was a strap on dildo situation until I re-read the title.

[verysomething]

gamer give me 5 years and I could talk him into it I think. For now a finger up his bum is enough

and ten years ago I thought even that was ewwwww.... it's just funny how my attitudes have changed. I blame tumblr

[antimatter]

we all are changing in how we see ourselves
I think you should embrace it and enjoy something you both like doing

an no, this isn'r very kinky

but you are heading the right direction

[DropYourSword]

Sorry verysomething I am just very literally minded sometimes! I see now that you just really canvassing general opinion on it. I was just thinking...well if we all say it's gross would you worry and stop!

I think that's my problem on AIBU threads...I concentrate PURELY on the question being asked, rather than looking at the wider picture! So where you asked is it wrong to enjoy this I was like..well hell no if you like it, then it's not wrong. Had you asked do other people like this, I would have understood your motivation better!! I need to learn to stop being so literal!

FWIW I'm pretty sure this is called rimming, and am fairly sure it's pretty common.

[verysomething]

drop agreed, and actually I never EVER go near AIBU. It's just a shitfight.

So, let's talk about rimming...

[differentnameforthis]

Possible repulsive in your 20s because you weren't comfortable with the person who was doing it?

Or now that you are 10yrs on, you are ore comfortable in your own body to enjoy it?

[differentnameforthis]

Deff sober
Not judging!

[EricLovesAnyFucker]

Loads of people enjoy rimming. No shame!

[Meerka]

Just a note. after a couple of explicit-ish posts a few days ago, the Evening Standard reprinted the questions and answers. So .. euhm ... its possible that anything you write here might be found in a bit more public place, and I wouldnt put it past some journalists to deliberately post questions in order to get answers.

[differentnameforthis]

op seems to have quite a few posts, not just questions to be fair.

But it is a fair point to make, meerka!

[Shapechanger]

If both people like something, it's fine. Nothing more to say is there?

Whenever I see threads like this I wonder if there is some greasy-haired little man in a mac sat at a computer.

[Tittytassels]

^^ nods head in agreement^^

[verysomething]

shape ewww. I am vair attractive I'll have you know although not this morning, ow ow my head

meerka god, it's depressing that we have to have one eye on the potential for any post to end up in the Daily Outrage. What is the world coming to when you can't get pissed on a Friday night and talk shite

[verysomething]

Oh god I'm going to have to name change again and forget I ever wrote this

[verysomething]

Having seen the shit that has gone on in the last few days, particularly here on Relationships, it was in retrospect perhaps not the best idea to start this thread. I don't want to give fuel to any shitstorms so am going to go away and never drink again and wait till everything calms the hell down before revisiting this topic. Which is a genuine one, and is not something I think is 'wrong' per se, was just interested in how mainstream this has become but now is obv not the time!

[ALittleStranger]

I think you'd be better off in AIBU OP. Posted in relationships it came across that you just had ishoos to work through.

But yes loads of people like it. There are tonnes of nerve endings there so of course it's pleasurable.