Hi, need some opinions,
I've been seeing my boyfriend about 4 months, we've know each other about 8 months, we met through work. We do manage to spend alot of time together but its hard because we both work shifts. Everything has been pretty much perfect.
However there is a female in his life whose relationship makes me uncomfortable. A female 'friend' we'll call Jamie, the first night I stayed at his, we were in bed but looking at stuff on the internet and he called me 'Jamie' but i let it slide, these things happen and I didn't want to make an issue of it as long as it was only the once. A few days later he was texting and I could see it was to a 'Jamie' and the texts had lots of kisses on, which made me raise an eyebrow but again I left it. Every so often if he opens his message inbox next to me I can see they've text recently, he he'll close it quickly. When he's texting her he moves away or turns his phone so I cant see.
We went out for my birthday recently and I posted a status on facebook which she liked (we're not friends but I'd tagged my BF). He saw and said he was surprised she liked it. So I took the opportunity to ask him who she is and he told me a close friend, that's just got engaged, and she wants to meet me, but I felt he was skipping out on telling me something.
Yesterday I was at his and he sat on the other sofa when he always sits next to me and sent this long text, I could tell it was her. I asked him what he was doing and he said writing, and I was like writing what and he said a story and tried to make a joke of it. He sat next to me and his phone went off again so I asked him who he was texting. He said 'Jamie' I knew I was right, said she was inviting him to her engagement party. I just don't understand why he was so cagey about it. So I spent the rest of the night in a bit of a strop because I don't want to seem like that kind of girlfriend that has issues with him having female friends so i didn't say anything but I feel like I can't ignore it anymore.
I just feel like there's something he's not telling me about this Jamie girl and I don't know why he's always so cagey about her, he doesn't hide his phone when he's texting anyone else. I don't think any of it would bother me if he hadn't called me by her name that first night.
Do I sound like I'm just being a mental girlfriend? Should I carry on ignoring it? Or should I ask him if there's something he's not telling me? And if so how do I approach the subject?
Sorry that was longer than I expected.
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ItsAlmostPerfect · 21/10/2013 23:09
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