I've lurked for sometime, and would really appreciate a forum to vent, please! Been with my DP 2 years, both divorcees. I have been very paranoid about the extent of DPs contact with his ex, after he lied about visiting her last year (He told me they had been together for 13 months, and she was abusive towards him, he finished with her alledgedly.) Eventually he owned up, said it was to fix her computer. Then more recently, he was getting texts and not answering them immediately, odd behaviour from him. It was a male name I didn't know, and lo and behold, he admits it is her. This time the story is she needs money, and as it ended badly between them, he wanted to make up to her by helping her out. Hmmm. I have asked why he felt the need to hide this from me, he said because I was so upset about them meeting up last year.
A week or so later, I find out he'd emailed her saucy messages. Confronted him, he says he set up an email address in her name, as he knew I was snooping on him. Then admits it was actually her, he was drunk, and foolish.
Reading this back I sound like a nutter, paranoid about an ex, but I'm actually a reasonable person, who has become super sensitive due to his deceit.
It's complicated as he moved in with me several months ago.
So my issues are why am I allowing myself to be hurt? Why am I still with him? Is it because my pride is dented?
I know that this is small fry compared to others difficulties, but I'm too ashamed to speak to any of my friends about this.
Thank you for reading
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Lies and betrayal, need to talk but no one in RL to confide in
RedRaw · 19/10/2013 23:57
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