I met my ex H when I was 20. I left him four months ago. We were together nearly 13 years-effectively my whole adult life.
Things were good when we first got together. Though I realise in retrospect that the red flags were there. He never liked me seeing my family, hated me spending a night away from him etc etc. His behaviour became much worse after the birth of our DCs and by the time I walked things had become intolerable.
How do I move on from this? I have a good degree and worked in a professional job but I gave up work when I had my first child and have been out of the workplace for some time now. It seems my field has moved on in the meantime and I would need to retrain for at least a year before I had any chance of re-entering it. I've been looking around for other work (even applied for some minimum wage posts) but despite sending out loads of CVs I haven't even been asked for an interview.
I just feel so hopeless. My confidence is at rock bottom. My husband told me for a decade that I was stupid and helpless and would never manage without him. I have to provide for my DCs now but I'm not even doing that. We're living with relatives and they've been lovely but we can't impose forever.
Self esteem and confidence is my main issues I think. How do I get them back? I'm going to start a Freedom course in January but what can I do in the meantime?
I want to move on with my life but it's so hard when I feel so useless and such a failure.
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TheRobberBride · 12/10/2013 22:31
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