Hi there...I hope someone can help me get my head around this.
I have two dc one of 15 the other 19 though still in full time education.
Ex has always been good at paying his maintenance although late on occasions which I was fine with as long as i knew it was coming.
Though I was told/warned by him at the beginning when we separated that as he is self employed if i wanted to go through the csa I was welcome to (I know for a fact he never puts through his true income).
Well to get to the point of the story as we are in the tenth month of the year he has only paid maintenance once when I told him repeatedly that we needed oil and were bloody freezing.
Oh forgot to mention that due to the nature of my job i don't work the summer so he knows i need the help. He is "supposedly waiting on a tax rebate" and he isn't getting money paid to him for the jobs he's been doing..
He usually helps with my dd's uniform etc and did i mention that he has had two holidays to America this year though he took the children separately one snow boarding and the other to Disney. I haven't had/afforded a holiday in for years. The stopping paying maintenance has co-incided with him being in a new relationship.
My dsis says the bigger amount that he owes me the less chance i will ever see any money..
I need to get things sorted out now as I'm broke and I won't be putting up with him being the Disney dad at xmas with the big flashy presents while i do all the work. He also lives an hour away and I have raised my dc on my own for the last five years he never wanted to know if i needed help with them.
Has anyone had any experience similar to mine?
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Twiggy71 · 12/10/2013 16:36
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