From day one it's been clear DH has a very low libido - he is of the opinion our sex life is great and that having sex twice a month (at the absolute most) is a fulfilling and busy sex life. Sex is also very dull and DH really struggles to ejaculate.
Me, I'm used to relationships where daily and adventurous sex was the norm, the pressure wasn't on to climax because the act of having sex was so fun. Now it just feels like a chore. I haven't told him this but have told him that it would be nice to try something new once in a while.
We are TTC and desperate to fall pregnant but DH can't see the correlation between his low sex drive and lack of ejaculation and our difficulties conceiving he actively feels like I'm the one with the problem and that my sex drive is abnormally high.
I've given up coming on to him because I'm now too hurt from continual rejection and crap excuses for not having sex, so it's all on his terms only now and I feel I have to comply or I simply don't get to have sex.
I don't know what to do. DH is perfect in every other way, he is kind, easy going, generous, funny, sexy. Just in the bedroom, it's, well, shit.
I have name changed btw but would like to hear some views as to what to do.
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Mismatched libidos, ttc and being made to feel like a nymphomaniac
Changinitupabit · 08/10/2013 14:55
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