Arrrrrrgh!
I love my mum dearly and she's very old- mid 80s- so am lucky to have her still- but we live 300 miles apart and only see each other once every few months. We talk on the phone maybe once a week or more.
Anyhoo- I work from home in the main and am usually quite busy managing my time around 2 part time jobs.
She doesn't seem to realise that I work- well, she does, but not when it comes to phoning and she quite often calls me during the day when I am in the middle of some work, often with a deadline.
Her phone number is automatically withheld so I don't know if it's her or not- it could be anyone. I sometimes don't answer if I am busy but I did today and she was wanting to chat about her shopping trip, cosmetics etc etc which is all fine BUT I am working to a deadline and have a meeting to go to later today, so I had to cut the call short.
She didn't say anything but I know she'd be hurt- and this happens quite a lot.
She doesn't give any recognition that I am working- seems to think that if I am in the house I've time to chat, rather than asking me if it's a good time etc.
I feel such a cow but on the other hand wish she'd take my work seriously and respect my 'working day'.
Is there anything I can do- other than not answer her calls- that might help her appreciate how my life is?
I've thought of the usual- 'love to chat but can't- have to get on just now' and I know she'd still take offence.
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How can I say this to my mum?
Southernlassy · 07/10/2013 13:05
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