I have another thread going on here about my H leaving me recently and having a serious affair with a co-worker. I have had lots of support on here and really good advice.
Some background - I had 2 MCs last year and we both lost 2 of our nieces at 9 days old and 20 months old - all this happened in the space of 9 months. On top of that, I was under threat of losing my job and also being bullied by a manager for 7 months.
These traumas took their toll and we were supporting each other but 3 months ago my H suddenly changed, was angry with me all the time and aggressive in the house, punching walls, calling me disgusting names etc. He always denied an affair until I found evidence of it and then told him to leave 3 weeks ago.
Some of you know that I'm really struggling and am trying everything to pull myself out of the pain that I'm feeling. I hear that it gets easier but I feel that I am dealing with so much grief and can't see a way out.
For 11 years, my H was the most caring, loving, supportive man and we were best friends. I think that's why I'm having so much difficulty coming to terms with this sudden change of character. I hoped that this was just a fling and that he would beg for forgiveness but I found out yesterday that he is planning on introducing OW to his family and he really thinks he hasn't done anything wrong as he told me we were over and he's not having an affair. It started when he was comforting her over the loss of her Dad and she understood his grief that he's been through.
It hurts beyond belief that he has started a new life with her and she is helping him come to terms with our losses - that's so personal.
I am at rock bottom, on ADs, can't function at work or home and last night I really scared myself as I just need the pain to end.
I called the Samaritans and even though I was rambling and sobbing, he helped me calm down and they will call me again tonight. My problem is I am going deeper and deeper into a dark place and I am worried about myself. I know I don't have the right to end my pain myself but I can't see a way for this to stop. I've tried everything, I've tried to be proactive and positive but I'm just so tired of it all and even when I'm busy, there isn't a minute that I don't think of him.
I know I need to get my strength back but I'm so tired of it.
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