My missus works three days and I work five. We have two children: DD2 DS6
She says she needs more help to run the house and I've agreed to give it. Not for the first time.
But when I say I intend to do some cleaning she puts up objections.
Not on Friday night, that's our romantic time together
Not on the weekend that's family time
Not in the week because the children are asleep
That doesn't leave any other time.
I'm wondering if this is me being a lunk and failing to understand the non-literal meaning of what she says. Can anyone translate please?
She also refuses to be specific on what more I should do. We are a team, she says, and we should be working together.
So I can't have clear, set jobs like cleaning the bathroom once a week or hoovering.
And sometimes when I ask she says 'use your eyes'.
I must sound like a terrible chauvinist. Part of the problem is that very often when I attempt something I end up being lambasted for 'doing it wrong'. Or she'll contemptuously tell me she's just done it.
I'm good at the 'man's jobs' like mowing the lawn and re-roofing the shed, which are useful. And I enjoy anything with the kids, from feeding and bathing them to taking them to the park.
But I'm floundering when it comes to sharing a bit more of her turf.
Willing but confused.
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What she says and what she means
atelier · 04/10/2013 15:39
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