I've never really dated before but for the past few months I have decided to give it a go. I've been in some bad relationsips in the past and I think I can finally recognise certain red flags for abusive and controlling behavior early on.
The situation Im in now is a bit strange though as I've met a man that is coming accross a bit too nice. I dont know if my past is affecting my judgment and this is generally how a nice man behaves but to me its a little odd.
I met him online after finding out we had alot in common but weve not met up yet. Heres the thing.
- He wants to be in constant contact, he will message me constantly and although I like to leave an hour or 2 inbetween (as otherwise it would literally be back and forth messages every few minutes) he will message me asking if Im ok if I've not go back to him.
-He says I mean alot to him even though weve not met and when I had to cancel our first date due to me being ill he was apparently beside himself with worry.
- He is incredibly insecure and if were on the phone and he hears my skype go off in the background he will need reasuring that hes not taking up my precious time. He constantly tell me he doesnt understand why I would be interested in him.
- He talks about future trips together and when I mentioned I needed a holiday after a particularly hard week with my daughter he offered to pay for me to go on holiday, just me and her.
This is too much isnt it? I've not led him on, I've told him I'm not looking to rush into anyting and I cant make much of a decision on whether to see him again till after weve met up. Im so used to looking out for the 'bad guys' that things like this confuse me.