My marriage is essentially over. But I haven't told him yet.
We can't communicate on anything other than practical issues. Anything deeper than that ends up in a row with him shouting at me, calling me names, being patronising and being a bully. We have not had sex in almost 3 years. I work part time but he controls the rest of the family money. My opinion is neither required nor validated.
So I've had enough and I don't want my daughter to witness this dysfunction any longer.
He owns the house, bought it just before we met. He will refuse to move out, though solicitor has told me it is the family home and it's probable that a judge would rule that dd and I stay here till she is finished her education. The house still has a hefty mortgage on it but it's not in negative equity.
But finances are tight. He is working on a new project that could bring in a lot of money - assuming he gets investors.
Do I bide my time to see if he gets the investment, or do I just call it quits now? It would be very difficult to finance two homes right now, but as soon as I say it's over life becomes totally unbearable whereas right now it's barely bearable!
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Bide my time or bite the bullet?
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lovemenot · 02/10/2013 14:22
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