Regular lurker but nc'd as h knows my nickname. We have had problems with him lying before, but this is the final straw.
Found out that, despite always saying he was never interested in porn, never talked about women in front of me etc, that recently he's been watching porn 3 or 4 times a week up to two hours at a time. He works nigjt shifts so home in the day when i am working and our DSs are in childcare.
I found out, we talked about it, he said he was disgusted with himself and would stop. I found out that he hadn't stopped, just tried to hide it better. I found more, we talked, he was disgusted with himself etcetc..
Then last night i found more. At least an hour, more like 2, on 3 out of the 4 days he was alone. I am disgusted with him for what he looked at (upskirt schoolgirls, amongst many others, sick sick sickbastard)
I have confrontedhim, he says he's sick and thinks he has an addiction. That was so unbelievably hard and painful to hea. He has hidden that side of him so well (onlywanted very vanilla sex whereas i wanted more) i am just in shock.
We have only been communicating by text as he is at work. I feel sick, can't sleep. He says it's nothing to do with anything lacking in our sex life, he thinks my body is sexy, he thinks our sex life is amazing.. But he knows this hurts me and our marriage and he won't stop. He think it' addiction, i think he's just a selfish twat and have told him so. I have made it very clear to him how much his lies and disrespect have hurt me and damaged our.marriage. He is apologising, i have told him his "addiction" & lies have killed our marriage. Am i being too cruel?
I have taken down pictures of us together, replaced our wedding photo with a picture of a dinosaur, and prepared a suitcase for him with a note attached asking him to stay somewhere else.
I am just jurt beyond belief at the frequency, his lies, hearing him say he is addicted has just ripped my heart out. I hate him.
Have i done the right thing?
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Did I do the right thing? H's "porn addiction"
BasicFish · 28/09/2013 06:28
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