Il try not to drip feed, basically my dad is a functioning alcoholic all my life but things got very bad last year & he collapsed at work and ended up in hospital for a few weeks. We all (mother & sisters) thought this would hopefully be a breakthrough of sorts as for the last 30 years no one has actually said 'dad your an alcoholic'. Worlds worst secret. Anyway he stopped drinking & went to counselling for the first time ever and was a changed man. Happy & helpful and a joy to his grandchildren instead of asleep/aggressive/shouty/argumentative you get the picture.
So in June he had A drink. Then another. And the next day too. Broke down crying was so sorry ect. Didn't happen again for a few weeks. Then again etc. now he has decided he can 'handle it' and is having a few beers at home on a Saturday night. Except its other nights too, but largely he is ok and pretending its all under control.
They are coming for the weekend. My OH doesn't drink (no issues just we have v small children) and I rarely drink. Have told my mum not to bring drink if dad wants a drink there is a pub up the road. She is goin mad begging me to say nothing to avoid confrontation and that 'he's entitled to a few beers on a sat night'. This is the same woman who bought him a box of beer because he asked her too and 'he would have bought it anyway'. I'm sorry for all the typing errors I'm on phone and am stressed.
So aibu? If dad brings a few beers and wants to drink them quietly in my home should I say nothing to keep the equilibrium? I feel by doing that I am essentially giving him my approval? Help!
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Gangie · 26/09/2013 15:59
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