Recently threw my P out after a seven year, fairly volatile relationship. I'd been planning on exiting the relationship (the laptop smasher for those who read the thread, now deleted) and it unfortunately ended with a DV incident that left me though not badly hurt, but time off work, etc.
It's been two weeks since then and he's pretty much constantly in contact via text, which I'm increasingly finding harder to ignore mainly because they are so goading I feel the inexplicable need to respond to as they make me feel that if I don't reply and "put him right" then he thinks I agree.
For example, he's making comments about my family, my weight (bit out of shape, but only size 16 ffs) and rather oddly, my mental health.
I know deep down its because he's angry and upset, but I really wanted to go NC. I can't change my number or block him as it's my work phone and I can't contact the SP directly without having to go through IT - why can't you just block a number on an iPhone?!
I do need to be able to keep lines of contact open to arrange for him to clear his stuff out, but these texts are driving me mad, and though I hate to admit, really nasty and upsetting.
What can I do/ WWYD?
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How to cope with goading texts from ExP
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sarahjaye · 24/09/2013 22:55
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