Hello Superstar... I'm new to the site and think I can offer you some advice - from a blokes perspective - that may give you a better insight into the guy you've posted about (hopefully).
I don't claim to be an Oracle on all things Internet Dating but, I have recently had some good and a lot of not-so-good experience of the above!
Been chatting to a guy from pof.
Straight away alarm bells start to ring! This is NOT a good site to start ID'n on.... There are a million reasons why you shouldn't, and only one why you should - it's free!
Looks and sounds v sexy...however he is not yet divorced and only left his wife 3 months ago.
Really?! Then ask yourself this question. If he's soo hot and sexy then why doesn't his wife want him?
Or, why can't he find anyone suitable in day-to-day life?
The fact that he is so recently out of a serious relationship should make you very very wary.....
I would guess, and this is only my honest opinion, it was infact his wife that booted him out of the relationship (if they are indeed even separated), and you would need to know a lot more about why.... There is nothing wrong with questioning people about their previous relationship, and I would recommend that you do this even before meeting any potential dates. After all, our past relationships is what makes most of us (emotionally) the people we are today.
The reason being is that they apparently hadnt had sex in a long time blah blah blah.
Hmmmm, not much to say about this that your instinct isn't already screaming out at you!
I wouldnt mind so much but there are a few things im not sure about.
Instinct and gut feeling here again! Always, always trust and go with this because it's your inner self trying to protect you.
He says that as soon as his wife knows hes seeing someone she will then file for divorce citing unreasonable behaviour so that it goes through quicker.
This is a classic one and almost could be in the top 10 tips for a successful player! What he is doing here is keeping some distance between you and him by using this excuse to keep the relationship secret. Common traits here are; not introducing you to any parts of his life - friends, family, work colleagues etc. It also enables him to limit what times/days etc that you can contact him.
There are various reasons why players use this tactic, but this guy sounds like he's still hung-up on his ex and hoping for a reconcilliation, or just filling in time and keeping his options open.
^I dont really want to be involved in their divorce or used as a reason for something that is nothing to
do with me.^
Very, very wise. And he know's that from conversations with you I bet, and that's likely why he chose this particular one! I'll wager he questioned you very early on about your thoughts on marriage, divorce etc and knows a lot more about your weakness's than you think he does.
This guy sounds like a relatively new player honing his craft, he will have likely had a few conquests, but still capable of making stupid mistakes that can easily be found out.
If any, or all of what I've said is of interest to you, then reply back and I can try and give you some tips on how to protect yourself. The stuff I have learnt over these past few months has come partly from personal experience (not all players are male), and also a lot from talking to other people about dating online.
There is also tonnes of info out there, and Google is your friend if you take the time to research....