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Just a one off or something more?

(11 Posts)
dm86 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:10:23

Just after abit of advice as abit confused at the minute.

Been with my husband 10 years and married for 7.Two children. Fairly hectic life with a business to run and various other things so don't really get much time together as he's away Monday-Friday.

He normally goes out of his way to get home but he rang tonight at 6pm saying he couldn't get home. I didn't feel 100% happy with how he was on the phone so checked his Facebook. which I know was wrong to do but it confirmed my suspicions. He'd been talking to a girl who used to live next door and openly asking about her getting in the bath etc and he'd pop round for a coffee and more etc. I feel sick. I txt him and told him he was a f**king k**b and not to speak to me.A few hours later he's appeared at the door and full of apologies.

I don't know what to believe to be honest. He claims its the first and only time and it was just harmless flirting and it wouldn't happen again. How do I know it's the first time? He has been caught talking to his ex before but other than that I've never caught him doing anything else? So confused right now. I have put weight on recently and don't feel 100% confident with myself so this is a total knock sad

tightfortime Fri 13-Sep-13 23:13:21

Was he talking to her on Fb tonight?

dm86 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:20:58

Yeah from about 5.30pm till about 7.30pm when I txt him and then he deleted the conversation. Asking her to come along with him for a night when he's working away. and he was near where she lived on tuesday and it's a shame she hadn't spoke to him then. She's single so was reciprocating etc. I do think it's the first time they've talked and he says it wouldn't have gone any further. Maybe I should've kept my mouth shut and seen what happens. Just makes me think what else he's up to?

QuintessentialShadows Fri 13-Sep-13 23:22:36

Dump the bastard.

tightfortime Fri 13-Sep-13 23:35:28

Come along for a night while he is working away? Not a one-off Hun, sorry. Get angry

dm86 Fri 13-Sep-13 23:42:55

Would it be wrong if I now check his phone bill? Urgh feel sick! What a horrible feeling.

Brownhairbrowneyes Fri 13-Sep-13 23:47:34

Yes defo check the phone the cheating rat

LondonNinja Fri 13-Sep-13 23:49:12

Not good...

Yep - check it.

LondonNinja Fri 13-Sep-13 23:50:29

Harmless, he says?! Fucking hell. It's not harmless...

Fairenuff Fri 13-Sep-13 23:55:38

No, there is more to this. He lied to you about not being able to get home so that he could plan his night with her.

skyeskyeskye Sat 14-Sep-13 00:03:32

Check his phone bill. After I found a flirty Facebook chat, I discovered thousands of texts to OW when I checked his mobile bill.

Sorry, but if he's suggesting she joins him in a night away then it sounds like he is planning to have sex , if he hasn't already.

I realise this must be a huge shock to you but you need to prepare yourself for any discoveries and print out anything that you come across and keep it safe.

Meanwhile, look after yourself. Just be prepared.

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