Sorry, just getting typing therapy here I think, though any insight will be very much appreciated.
We split up a year ago, two young dcs, and the kids and i moved out in January. In May we sold the old family home which he had stayed in, and he moved into a local flat. In June we decided to try again and he moved in with us. And on the 1st Sept he moved out again.
The kids are happy and seem non pulsed - no crying or asking questions (other than can I take my book/toy/slippers etc), and have been sleeping at his two nights and mine five nights when we have been separated. No asking for either parent when away, they're used to seeing more of me than him anyway due to work/travel - having to cook for them etc is all new for him but he is coping really well.
I feel like we haven't given splitting up or trying again a proper attempt. We've just been in limbo, two mates raising kids with little attraction or communication, but friendship is there - eating and watching box sets together for example!
We were together for 17years, from when I was 18, and I have always wondered if I was only in it because I listened to everyone's opinion that I couldn't do better and was amazingly lucky to have such a catch. There was no passionate beginning, I was amazed someone like him wanted me, and while he was far from my type I was very flattered and we just played happy families from there on I think.
I don't know. I'm worried this indecision could mess up the dcs, though I'm also aware that they are better being from a broken me than in one. I want us all to be happy, and loved, and I want some headspace and time out to be on my own. Sorry, not sure what I'm getting at, I just wish I knew if we should keep trying to be together or not.
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