Sorry for copy and pasting but posted on EA thread but had no response as yet so thought id start my own thread. Also I posted a thread last week which I will find and link to in case helps give more insight.
Hello to you all. First of I just want to say I'm not sure if I actually belong here but for a while I've had a feeling something isn't right but I can't quite put my finger on what it is my mind seems foggy and when I try to think of particular Things my OH does that may be abusive of even wrong I find I can't think straight -is that crazy?
Dear jackie I've just read your entire thread and a lot of what was posted resonated with me and my relationship. Particularly the bits about not being able to brig up anything negative about a partner even if done tactfully and kindly to try and discuss it like mature adults it will end up in an argument with him listedthigs I do to him or he will go off and sulk and be passive aggressive. I feel on tip toes around him, I don't feel truly loved. He does a lot for me in terms of housework and looking after kids. But he isn't very nice a lot of the time.
Tonight he got annoyed because our ds didn't want him to put him to bed so he stormed upstairs, I remarked 'thanks a lot" then he launched into shouting At me that I flthink I'm great? And how do I think he feels that his son doesn't want him. He did apologise but I never feel his apology are sincere because the behaviour continues. Now he is in our room and I feel like I've done wrong as I'm been give. Fhe cold shoulder. I'm not sure if I am making sense I'm quite confused sorry.
I tend not to even bother bringing up anything I'm not happy with because he will never address the issue. One weird thig he also does is not ever react when I cry he just ignores me even when it's not as a result of an argument or about him it is very hurtful so now I just don't cry around him. He told me it is because he usd to hear his mum crying every night when she spilt from his dad and he found a suicide nnote she had wrote. Yes tat would be very distressing but wry does that mean he cannot have any empathy or even want to comfort me when I cry?
Sorry not sure what else to write bit of background we have been together 6 years- have 2 kids 8 yr old dd (obv not his) and 2.5 ds.
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