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enthusiasmcurbed Thu 05-Sep-13 22:46:52

Just that, I've been dumped for being poor. Life has been really tough these last few years but my BF of the last 6 years has decided I am now too destitute and pathetic to be with. But hey fuck him and I will rise!!

Leverette Fri 06-Sep-13 06:25:34

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HairyGrotter Fri 06-Sep-13 07:49:14

Urgh, he sounds vile! You are WELL rid! Dumped for being poor?! Jeez, I'd be on my own for life then if all folk thought like that, thankfully, your ex seems to be 'rare'!

Enjoy your freedom!

catsmother Fri 06-Sep-13 08:48:58

Sad thing is there are a fair few people out there whose relationship choices are dictated by the earning capacity and/or assets of prospective dates. In your case, it beggars belief however as you were together 6 years - am guessing perhaps that when you met you might have had "more" (financially) ? However, if you always offered to pay your own way I don't really see what his problem was ? ..... except that normal and decent people wouldn't see their lower earning partner struggle to "keep up", and I suspect that while he didn't want to seem like a heel to the outside world by letting you struggle, he also, at the same time, wanted to keep all his money for himself! Selfish, in other words - 'cos after such a long relationship, most couples would pool their money or else at least come to some arrangement where one party wasn't always scraping about. He just sounds mean.

I used to work with a woman who on the face of it seemed very nice but who absolutely refused to date any man who didn't appear to be well off. She let several very nice, funny and attractive men slip through her fingers because they didn't have a good "enough" job or a flash car. To that end, she got what she wanted when she started seeing a company director with cash to splash - shame he was married, so she could never truly have him anyway. Yet having access to money was more important than an honest relationship with someone who could truly give themselves to her ?!?

enthusiasmcurbed Fri 06-Sep-13 16:14:42

Thank you all for the kind words. You've really helped me.

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