sorry did type long informative message last night but I was so angry I deleted it.
Soooo...backstory.
'friend X' has for the last year been making nasty comments to me designed to make her feel better about herself. She has a chip on her shoulder about how she looks, weight etc. all comments under the guise of humour but clearly they are bitter and nasty. Ive separated these comments from our friendship as I put it down to the chip on her shoulder talking. Ive trying talking to her over the year and she has laughed in my face.
Ive put everything into this friendship and Ive been her shoulder to cry on, given her clothes as she has lost weight as shes not much money, given her son clothes that my ds has barely worn, I got her a gift when she got to her goal weight, cheered her on been supportive despite these comments. I thought that perhaps once she lost weight she would stop with the need to try and bring me down but no, she admitted that the chip is worse than ever.
Last month it was her bday, I went to ALOT of effort. She had a party and I didn't even get a slice of cake, it was boxed up and taken home, I was starving all the food had gone when we arrived and we were told to go to the chippy, so I managed to get bar staff to allow me to buy some dessert which she shared with me. (I made my ds bday cake/no party but made sure her/family got a chuck) On her actual bday I got her over to mine, bought lots of mini cupcake/presents etc etc she took cakes hm for her family. It became clear that anything Ive said to her in confidence she has repeated to someone else. Ive not had a thank you for any of it.
I saw her yesterday she acted as if all was normal, I told her we needed to chat and sort something out. she has no idea what she could have done wrong. so I said I would see her next week as kids with us.
so roll onto evening and she cant wait she needs to know now, her head is spinning, shes in tears, mentally shes in a bad place. I offer to go straight round. She declines but wants to know by text. half an hour later her hubby texts me, plse can you tell her whats she done wrong and she dosent know and shes very upset.
Now for a month she has known Im upset and not approached me. I live 2 mins away, she has not bothered her head all month but now she is.
So I go round and they ignore the door..get in my car to go and I see her hubby in kitchen....so I go back. He lets me in and X stands there in tears denys saying these things to me tells me its her houmour...her dh wants to kick me out, X refuses wants to know everything so I tell her, examples of things she said, no apology no Im sorry if you took it like that Ill be more carefull with what I say just tears and screaming that she cant take it and she hates herself and she must be a horrible person.
My mum keeps telling me she is NO friend get rid but aside from the snide remarks we got on well but maybe I have MUG across my face
so that's the jist of it...I don't even care if this outs me. IM DONE.