I have posted on here before but have become quite unhappy recently- having developed a crush on a colleague. I can't stop thinking about him. nothing has happened - he's with someone and Im married and anyway, its all in my head and there's no evidence he feels the same way.
This whole mid-life thing seems to be hitting me really hard. I don't want to leave my marriage and it would be a total train wreck if I ever acted on any of the feelings. But, am I doomed to getting random crushes on people now for the rest of my life? Does it stop at some point? How do you actually stop it becoming an obsession? I had 21 years of happy marriage and never thought about another man. And now in the last 12 months I have had a one night stand (which I posted on here before about and don't want to unearth all over again - it ended and no further contact) but unfortunately now have crush on new OM. I have an extremely demanding job, 4 kids and plenty to do so I'm not sitting around bored. It just seems to be something I can't control like it comes out of the blue and just hits me.
I am happy with my DH, there aren't any issues and he's loving and kind. Its just the fantasy of the "new"....I thought all this would stop as I got older. It would be OK if it just faded after a week or two but I have been plagued by this for a good few months now and its just such hard work. There is no way to put any distance between myself and this OM we have a professional relationship. Please help. Words of advice, sorely needed.
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middle aged crush. married. just want it to stop. Mid life blues.
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scorpiomyrtlock · 17/08/2013 22:06
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