If we don't get some help now I fear we'll just leave the two of them to it to destroy themselves.
She let my brother threaten me very aggressively in front of my frightened 6 and 4 year old for 'daring' to mention I could smell cigarette smoke in my late father's house that 'they' are renovating to sell (and have been for almost 3 years with him on a wage of £200 per week plus a blank cheque for all work he says he is paying others to do, most of which never happens) with him living there with all food and bills paid whilst she is mostly banished.
She has to respond within half a minute of a text for him otherwise 'he might find it difficult to control his temper and take it out on the house, or refuse to do anything for a few days though still needing the money for drugs otherwise he'll HAVE to break the law to get them' blah blah blah.............
I'm sure those of you who have been there don't need the rest....
Anyway. My DB and I finally admitted that WE needed some support, now in our 30s as this 'relationship' has dominated most of our lives and consumed all of the energy of our parents and will without doubt kill our mother, and consume all of her resources either before or after she has gone.
Are there any books that can a)help us deal with our own issues, and b)give us more helpful responses to some of the just STUPID things that our mother says as if they are perfectly normal behaviours or justifications. Mostly she is passive aggressive and says things like 'you can choose to believe that I am doing that because of X if you like, and there is nothing I can do to change the way you choose to feel'.
Grrrrrrrrrrrrrr.
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Book reccomendations for siblings of an addict with an enabling mother?
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StarlightMcKenzie · 17/08/2013 21:01
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