I have been seeing a man, Toby, for about 3 months now. When we got together he told me his best friend is a woman called Lauren who he met through work.
We got talking and as it turns out that around a year ago they dated for a fortnight or so before Lauren* decided she didn't want a relationship at the moment. A week later, she announced her new boyfriend to the world and it was clear to Toby that she had been seeing this new guy too and chose him. She's still with him now. Obviously all of this is none of my concern, it was a long time ago, it just adds context.
I met some of his friends for a casual drink (her included) and we "announced" (for want of a better word!) that we were seeing each other. Later that night I heard her say to someone else, "Seeing each other? I bet the whore is sleeping around, she looks the type" . I shrugged it off and pretended I hadn't heard as it hurt and confused me to be honest!
A few weeks after we were together and his phone rang. I told I didn't mind if he answered and turns out it was Lauren* asking him if he was going to the pub quiz. He told her he wasn't as we had plans and it was obvious she hung up as he pulled a and put the phone down. Again, I let it go.
Yesterday we were having a meal and I heard his phone text alert and it was Lauren* asking if she could call to discuss a work issue. Of course, I told him to go ahead. He texted back that he would after he had finished his meal, received another text and pulled a face again. Turns out she'd told him not to bother and she would pull the answer out of her arse!
I don't think she wants to be with him as she's had around a year to decide if she does AND she already has someone. What can I do? Invite her for a one-on-one drink? Suggest we meet as a 3? I don't want to come between friends at all
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ConfuzzledToTheMax · 15/08/2013 18:41
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