OK I could do with some MN wisdom re my current situation with STBXH as I am not sure how to procede at the moment.
My STBXH and I decided to separate about a month ago, he has been working abroad for the past 14 months following a really stressful 6 month period of unemployment for him in 2011/12.
He works a good 12 hour flight away so not able to get back for weekends etc but we decided it may work for a year or so to get us back on our feet ( the money is better than what he could earn here)
We have 2 DC age 12 and 9, I have been asking him for some months now about how he was getting on with job hunting in the UK as his contract was due to run out this summer, he has been quite evasive about it to which I ended up losing my temper and sending him lots of links for jobs here culminating in a phone call from him telling me he does not want to come back to the UK but most of all does not want to come back to me.
This was not a huge shock as things have not been great for a while but very upsetting non the less. I still assumed he would come back to the UK for the DC at least.
We were out for a previously planned visit 2 weeks ago and while there he informed me he has approached his company about a 2 year extension and also had divorce papers ready for me to sign. never mind that I have barely had time to get my head around the separation.
My spidey senses (pinched that fom another thread) started tingling though when DS1 mentioned that while I was away for a few days visiting a friend that 'Dads friend' had gone to see a film with them and that 'dad was showing off in front of her'. STBX had not mentioned this to me.
I've checked out this woman on FB and co-incidentally she is into stuff that STBX has recently become interested in.
He swears he is not seeing anyone but I just feel in my gut he is lying or at the very least lying by omission. I suppoes it's a moot point now seeing as we are already splitting up but I'm finding it very difficult to be civil and not bitter given that he has effectively abandoned his kids to pursue a singleton lifestyle which I never would have believed he could do and that I feel he has been planning this for a very long time.
If you're still here thanks for reading I guess I really needed to vent! and
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Mrscaindingle · 14/08/2013 13:42
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