Sorry this may be long, but I will try and condense.
I have suffered from anxiety and depression for about 3 years, I think it could be bipolar, because I have tremendous highs and lows. I am not on any medication as it made me feel weird and had terrible side effects.
I have had quite a severe 'low' for about 8 months, from Xmas until about a month or so ago. Mainly because of circumstances in my life (separated from husband 2 years ago, had a very bad breakup with new love, financial difficulties and health issues)
My 2 closest friends knew about my depression as well as the problems I have had.
I sometimes drink too much and do and say silly things.
In March this year I did just that. After that my 2 friends started being odd with me, leaving me out of events and ignoring my calls. It was very gradual and every time I asked them they said I was being paranoid and silly. There were also another few of my friends (5 altogether) who cut contact with me.
I said to one that I felt I must be a bad person if they didnt want to be friends with me any more, her reply was that I was (amongst other things) 'defensive, argumentative and thoughtless' but not a bad person. This confused me a lot and I didnt dare say anything in case I was any of those things.
I stopped going out and spent all of my days off work and when I didnt have the children in bed crying.
Another friend came round to see me and I told her everything, she said they were completely wrong and that I was none of those things, I was just going through a bad time and friends should understand that. She rallied and another couple of friends spent almost all their spare time with me, bringing me back up and getting me back on my feet.
I am much better now and can see everything clearly. I know that I did nothing wrong (apart from maybe saying a couple of daft things whilst drunk) and I did not deserve to be treated like I have been.
I have also found out that these women have been telling others that I am an awful person and should be avoided. One even rang the friend who has helped me to tell her that she needed to be wary of me.
I am strong enough to deal with it all now and rise above it, but I feel like I cant properly move on until I have the answers as to WHY?? I texted one of the friends to ask them and she texted me back to say stop 'harassing' her. I texted the other friend and her boyfriend rang me to say that he would send someone round to 'sort me out' if I bullied his girlfriend again.
I want to know what has happened to my friends. Or what I did that was so bad that they want to hurt me so much. We were friends for over 20 years, how can they suddenly hate me so much?
I am very lucky that I have other friends, but I feel bereaved, I feel like years have been taken away from me with no explanation.
Im sorry if the above sounds strange, but it is strange!! I wish I could just move on.
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I need closure after losing my friends but I cant get it
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