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Today i parted with £410...

(14 Posts)
smokinaces Tue 30-Jul-13 17:50:24

And filed my divorce paperwork with the court. We have been separated four years, were married just under four. I was fed up of waiting for him to pay so I borrowed from my credit card.

Its first step but feels massive. Feel like I should have a mini party or something.

NeedlesCuties Tue 30-Jul-13 18:13:07

Will raise a wine with you.

Is there anyone in real life you can turn to for support and celebration?

smokinaces Tue 30-Jul-13 18:18:45

I have loads who are ready to break open the bubbles as soon as its all gone through, but I admit I wasn't expecting to feel anything at the submittal of the paperwork! So not really said anything. Feels weird to know its all happening and that in 6-12 weeks it could be done.

SlumberingDormouse Tue 30-Jul-13 19:03:02

I'll raise several a wine with you too. I hope it comes through relatively quickly and that this will be the start of an exciting new stage in your life.

oldfatandtired1 Tue 30-Jul-13 19:06:34

I'm about to do the same smokin. Twunt is on a 6 figure salary while I'm on 27k. Will be worth it to be rid of him!

Apileofballyhoo Tue 30-Jul-13 19:35:02

wine good for you.

Seth Tue 30-Jul-13 20:16:15


Hurrah for you! I did exactly the same thing today. Has also been a long time coming for me ( 4 years in Oct) .

I suspect there may be obstacles and disagreements along the way involving the house and finances but it felt wonderful having finally got things moving and knowing that I have at least done all I can do for now.

Hope things progress smoothly for you grin

smokinaces Tue 30-Jul-13 20:16:32

Cheers wine

I put very minimal info in - basically saying he left unexpectedly 4 years ago, never returned and Ive lived as a single parent ever since.

However, he's has another child since so the clerk did say the judge may not allow our reasoning and want something else instead in light of the new child. Even though they werent together until we had been separated a year, its the whole legal side.

He signed the child arrangement paperwork though. Which is something.

He was meant to pay for it, and then ran out of money. I have no chance in the next few years and even though I'm single I'm fed up of ticking that married box or separated box instead of divorced. and I'm keeping my married name but want to be Ms not Mrs.

So hopefully its all smooth. Good luck oldfatandtired too :-)

smokinaces Tue 30-Jul-13 20:17:39

Yeay Seth to you too!!

we have separate finances and houses thankfully. so I'm hoping its easy going. we are amicable and I'd hate for the divorce to stop that.

Heres to us both starting 2014 as proper single women :-)

Cabrinha Tue 30-Jul-13 20:27:47

Good for you!
Mine's been dragging on (via solicitor) for about 3 months, because I was prioritising sort

LoserNoMore Tue 30-Jul-13 20:29:45

Well done, I've been putting it off but I'm going to just get it over with.


Cabrinha Tue 30-Jul-13 20:31:51

sorting out house move and finances. At the weekend he got the acknowledgment of service from the court, and I was surprised how excited I was! Moreso than paperwork going in (maybe because solicitor did that so I didn't see it?) I didn't expect to feel excited until the nisi!

It's such a bloody faff though - no wonder they charge so much. I don't see why they have to do the acknowledgment, then I have to do an affidavit that what I've already submitted is true, as is his acknowledge... wish where it was amicable there was the option to have your ex do the acknowledgment questions via solicitor and just stick the whole lot in together!

Anyway... Here's to more bubbly!!!

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Tue 30-Jul-13 21:09:27

You can change to Ms right now if you want!

smokinaces Tue 30-Jul-13 21:16:25

Ehric, I have on stuff like my id badge for work and any new finance etc but bank cards etc I havet changed as its easier with the paperwork. I will be happier being able to write ms everywhere again!

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