He's not happy. He's never been happy since I was pg with dc1. He told me then that his feelings for me changed.
We've been together since we were kids really and have so many happy memories.
But he is so dissatisfied with his life, and its really dragging us all down.
Says he is jealous of the time I give dcs - they both have SN.
Says I love them having SN because I enjoy the attention (this was the most painful thing he has ever said to me, totally untrue, and when he calms down after he's said stuff like this he apologizes and says he knows its not true but he gets angry and says hurtful things).
Says that he is not allowed a life but I am.
Says that lots of ppl have it easier than us, and life's so unfair.
Says that I slag him off to my friends and family. I don't. I never have. I've only once ever asked my mum for help with him once when I was stuck in hospital with very poorly baby dc and dh was cross because I wouldn't leave hospital to run an errand for a family member. He has never forgiven me for telling my mum about this, but I was so upset when she visited hospital I didn't have much choice.
Says that if I was nicer to him and showed him more affection that he would be nicer to me.
He has no patience at all with dc1, and is quite angry that he won't just be normal.
When it's just us it's fine, so long as I don't talk about dcs or work.
He said he wanted couples counselling, and I agreed, then he changed his mind and said I would use it to make out it is all his fault.
I wish I could help him to see all that's good about our dcs, and our lives and help him to enjoy his time with us, and stop comparing with others, but I don't know how.
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Unhappy DH dragging me down
VodkaOClock · 27/07/2013 17:20
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