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I know it' Sunday but can I ask a bumsex question....?

(40 Posts)
BackwardsCasserole Sun 14-Jul-13 08:46:22

This is a question of advance preparation you see.... Umm, not being au fait with this particular technique I just wondered if there was a 'best' position for the beginner. Well, beginners obviously grin. I think I'm getting the other important points - being properly aroused, lube and er, large small drink first.

DioneTheDiabolist Sun 14-Jul-13 22:00:52

I recommend lots of lube and clitoral stimulation (but definitely not to the point of orgasm). Get him to insert a lubed finger, then two and make sure he has plenty on his penis. Spooning is a great first time position and you can easily switch to doggy if you want.

Make sure he goes slow, relax and

I have not found it messy, although others have, so be prepared. I have extremely intense orgasms during anal sex, I hope you do too OP.grin

Kormachameleon Sun 14-Jul-13 22:05:41

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

missbopeep Mon 15-Jul-13 08:59:03

I just don't get it either. You've got a perfectly good orifice meant for sex so why bother with a bum hole?
FWIW- and I may be wrong here, I thought that repeated anal sex meant there was a risk of anal incontinence after a while due to sphincter damage.

EhricLovesTeamQhuay Mon 15-Jul-13 09:15:39

It's fun. Why do anything other than piv sex? Cos it's fun. And occasional, gentle, lubricated anal sex will not have any long or short term affect on your sphincter.

DioneTheDiabolist Mon 15-Jul-13 11:23:06

Missbopeep, you could say the same thing about oral sex. People have anal sex because they like it. Have you ever tried it?

I don't understand why some people are so judgey about the sex lives of others.hmm

BackwardsCasserole Mon 15-Jul-13 13:06:33

I would have thought from the thread title it was pretty clear what this was all about so not sure why people feel the need to add their judgey comments rather than advice. Still, each to their own and fair do's if you hate the idea. I don't want to do it with you anyway grin.

JollyGolightly Mon 15-Jul-13 13:09:09

Is your username a reference to bumsex, OP? It reads like the kind of term I tend not to understand because I am innocent.

BackwardsCasserole Mon 15-Jul-13 13:12:53

No, well not as far as I know (which is tragically little, hoping to improve on that). It was just an inspired thought and I was rather pleased with the association it seemed to have. Glad it struck you too though.

fyibumsex Mon 15-Jul-13 13:33:41


Uber name change but.

I have had anal sex with one partner (2 times). Not pre-discussed. No special preparations. In middle of hot sex so both revved up. No 'fall out', not drama, quite nice in a way at time. If I may be frank, going in and sensation fine. Going out, sort of like 'backwards poo' a bit hmmm.

When all's said and done, I viewed it as - bear with me - like eating Ethiopian cuisine. Interesting. Great night. Nice vibe in restaurant. But no huge urge to go back. I'll stick with French and Italian ; )

GreenSkittles Mon 15-Jul-13 16:18:55

I indulged in a bit of 'pegging' with an ex. He loved it, apparently men have a g-spot up there somewhere? And I found it quite amusing, though tiring on the hips. I don't fancy trying it myself though.

Does anyone have a link to the river island jeans thread? It sounds like a must-read! grin

nickymanchester Mon 15-Jul-13 20:29:18

GreenSkittles - I indulged in a bit of 'pegging' with an ex. He loved it, apparently men have a g-spot up there somewhere?


I know that this is getting a bit off-topic but, as I said above, also think about doing anal on him as well:-

DH and me have talked about pegging but we haven't quite got there yet, although we've done other stuff similar to the thread above.

One thing we're thinking about is the Feeldoe - just search for it on google or youtube to get an idea of how to use it. Or have a quick look at the video here:-

Sorry that this is a bit off-topic but, seriously, consider doing it to him as well.

MrsZoidberg Mon 15-Jul-13 22:33:15

We're newbies at bumsex too grin Still experimenting.

A position we found ourselves in was fantastic. I was lying on my front after a sensational back massage. DH went to lay on top of me to kiss my neck and I got the usual poking grin I started wriggling, so he took this as a signal to continue, and boy was I glad he did! I can't work out why but it just felt fantastic grin DH complained about his back afterwards though grin

I don't know if this is classed as a "beginner" position or not, but we managed!

fuzzpig Mon 15-Jul-13 22:38:06

I'm trying to work out what river island jeans can possibly have to do with bumsex! confused

fuzzpig Mon 15-Jul-13 22:41:58

Never mind, it appears I've found the thread

TalkativeJim Mon 15-Jul-13 22:45:40

LOL at bumsex being part of your 'medium term plan' grin

2 years: start ttc/finish degree/save for deposit

5 years: buy flat/have bumsex/start own business

10 years: expand business/learn French/save for bum repair op

etc. etc.

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