The only thing I know is that I'm flying to New Zealand on Monday to bring my little grand-daughter (4) home to England just as soon as I can. My darling son and his dear wife were killed there just 3 days ago so I'm flying out. I have no proper idea what I'm going to have to do when I'm out there. I have a few contact addresses and of course I know where little Amy is being looked after but I don't even have a key to my son's house. I've no idea if either of them made a Will or anything about their finances. What about the funerals? I just don't know where to start. Amy is going to be so sad and confused leaving her home and her friends and I don't know what to say to help her. I need help or a checklist or something.
So sorry for your loss. There are some lovely kiwi mners, I'm sure if they knew where your family was based they would be happy to help. It might be worth posting in the overseas board and stating where in NZ you're heading to.
My heartfelt sympathies for such an awful situation.
Such dreadful news! You will need legal advice and to find out whether they appointed a guardian in a will for example. It won't be as simple as just bringing her back with you I am afraid. I would plan for an extended stay.
I'm so sorry about your loss. I would try to get hold of the uk embassy in NZ, and speak to them about how to do it. They should have an emergency number for you to contact them, or you can do it when you are there. They will be able to advice you on what to do legally and practically. Oh my goodness, how terribly sad for you.
Amy's other GPs don't know yet. They are travelling in Europe and haven't been tracked down yet. I hope and expect that one or both will travel out straight away. My husband is slightly disabled and couldn't travel so far and my younger son is still at university and with respect to him is better off here. It is going to be so sad for the other GPs since my sons wife was their only child. It was the UK police that told us after the NZ police told them. The only thing that might make things a bit easier is that Amy is a British Citizen as were her Mother and Father. I last saw Amy at Christmas. She is in short term foster care in NZ.
Would you like us to brainstorm some ideas for what you should do?
Have you spoken to Amy on the phone? Are you able to talk to her on Skype? I'm sure her foster carer has been chosen carefully as someone who can deal with such traumatic situations.
Was your son or his wife on Facebook? Did you keep up to date with him on there? If so can you contact any of his friends to ask about the key? They could perhaps arrange with the police that the locks could be changed and they could have a key for you. That would save you having to do it when you're there.
What about your son's employer? His HR person should be very helpful to you.
Please don't think you can't ask people for help, just because you don't know they. They will be desperate to help out.