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act of kindness

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eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 07:00:47

Ive been allways a person who would help people around me

Tough there were situations when it did no go well for me but I culd not be different

But for the last two three years I lost a hope and beliefe in people and it was the time when I needed help the most

It was a very hard time for me

and then suddenly somebody had done something really big
a real act of kindness with out any interest

A truelly huge thing consider cirumstancess
and even if it work in half
it will have massive possitive impact in my life

I was slowly slepping down with all my life in general

I keep asking my self why it happened but well I guess I
would never know

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 07:17:40

I'm glad someone took the time to help you. Kindness often costs nothing and if everyone was a little more considerate to each other, the world would be a little nicer.

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 10:12:41

yeh its true
unfortnatelly the world's going in wrong direction

and The Kind people are very rare

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 10:16:55

I'm afraid I don't agree with the 'hell in a handcart' sentiment. We may be individuals but collectively we are 'the world' or 'society'. You're kind, I'm kind, and I'm pretty sure most people are reasonably kind. Or at the very least it's just a minority that deliberately set out every morning to make other people miserable.

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 10:20:14


chamonixlover Mon 08-Jul-13 10:21:44

I've been having a tough time recently, both emotionally and financially, with husband refusing to share his income to feed his own children.

Then last week, a friend who knew what was happening left the kids some money, enough that would feed them for 2 weeks (no I've let them keep it for them to spend) and another friend spent a whole day with me helping me to do something I should have done 15 years ago. Those 2 acts of kindness are what keeps me going through hard times.

What makes me happy most is to help others. It's nice some friends have taken the time to help me. Never forgotten. Yes kind people are rare now but there are some and they know who they are.

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 11:01:38

If you're the same person that started this thread.. I just grrr! ... then the reason you feel kind people are very rare is probably because you've experienced (or are still experiencing) an abusive relationship. When you say 'I was slowly slepping down with all my life in general' and you've lost hope in people generally that sounds to me like the type of depression which is a common response in abuse victims. Hopelessness. Believing everyone is a bad person.

Other than this act of kindness out of the blue, are you receiving professional help?

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 12:30:21

Im fine
trust me
far from depression
but kind people it is not easy to find them

dont worry didnt loose a clarity of things
even if tough
"life sucks"

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 12:31:37

Life shouldn't suck any more than necessary. Have you got rid of the abusive man in your life now?

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 14:21:49

Dont You think its silly question to ask

shouldnt suck any more
Maybe you dont really know how the real life looks
I do not intend to sound offensive
but please forgive me
stopped beliving in fairy tales long time ago

Even if I wrote
Slowly ....
I didnt really meant what you asssuming

apart from everything I was ill
so eh live do

sucks and I suppouse If you ever experienced pain that make walking on the walls or made you scream
you would know how much it "sucks"

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 14:24:25

All I asked was whether you'd got rid of the person that was making your life suck more than was necessary. I don't think that's a particularly silly question.

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 14:29:14

and truelly I was not that kin to take some
lovelly painkillers and
live like plant

so if you can imagine what being kind I was talking about
...ah grrrrrr

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 14:37:59

It's difficult to understand what you mean, I'm afraid. Do you mean you were suicidal and then helped by the Samaritans?

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 14:38:59

and what does really annoy me in you "people"
is the depression word

Ive "been in school once"

sorry but now you got me
somtimes insted of medical diagnose what people really need is a real help

CogitoErgoSometimes Mon 08-Jul-13 14:40:24

What real help do you need? Are you getting that real help?

eeebee77 Mon 08-Jul-13 14:47:47

I was not

garlicsmutty Mon 08-Jul-13 15:59:55

Eeebee, this post might annoy you and I apologise for that. I have severe, clinical depression and for a very long time I was physically crippled by it. This capacity of depression, to cause serious physical disablement, is not always obvious from reading about it.

I now take medicines and do my therapy. I'm not well, and I'm not particularly positive, but the treatment definitely helps and has saved my life many times. In therapy, I also learned pain management, which is a top useful skill to have. It reduces my need for painkillers.

There are some truly malicious people in this world, it's true. People who take pleasure in harming others tend to rise to power, too, a fact I find depressing! As well as the small percent (about 4%) of people who are downright 'evil', there's also a very large percentage who would hurt another person if it gave them an advantage, and even more who hurt others without thinking it through. You're right about this.

However, there are also billions of lovely folks who do think first, who go out of their way to do no harm, and to do some good. Most people are good, actually. Trouble is, thinking about the bad can take up so much of your mind that you don't really have enough space to notice all the goodness. Getting antidepressants and talking therapies can help you notice when you're not giving enough credit to the 'good' in life, and fix it.

Being exclusively focused on the bad in life is a definition of depression, that's why I agree you sound depressed. It is realistic to acknowledge all the bad in the world; what makes it an illness is the way depression focuses only on that, shutting out the good. I hope this makes some sense to you.

It's so good to hear you've been shown real kindness smile You deserve plenty of kindness, you know, from other people and also from yourself. Kindness is healing. It would be nice if you'd go to your GP and give them a chance to be kind, too.

Wishing you well. xx

BMW6 Mon 08-Jul-13 19:12:17


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