My ex had a breakdown due to money problems and the stress of being a new dad several years ago.
He was away camping with friends, he got very drunk and did lots of drugs and got no sleep for a few days.
He came back very cold towards me and sat around drinking, smoking and not doing anything to help me in the house. I asked what was going on and he told me it was over, he didn't love me, he didn't want to be a dad and then he walked out and disappeared for a week.
He came back very apologetic but very angry with his parents, saying he'd made a mistake and he did want me and our baby.
Several years later, he goes out and gets completely drunk, he goes absolutely mental at me - telling me I'm a crap mother and useless and all his problems are my fault (the anger is all directed at me whereas before it was at his parents).
We had some problems before, but he was acting loving towards me. Now overnight, he is acting very cold towards me, he gets very angry, very quickly with me and he is being irrational and impulsive. He doesn't want me as a girlfriend, he wants to be single like his friends. We are in the process of moving out. He has stopped doing anything to help in the house and is sat around drinking, smoking and on his games console.
I think he has had another breakdown but his family think he has just had enough of me, I don't make him happy so we need to split up.
If it is a breakdown - it's been nearly 2 months. Do they last that long as his first one was just over a week. I don't understand how he can love me one day and hate me the next.
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movingonnowscared · 29/06/2013 11:18
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