Hi
I need to put some space between dm and me. She calls in to my house frequently to see my dc, often without warning, so I see her a minimum of twice a week, usually 3 times, and very occasionally up to 5 times.
I'm feeling suffocated! I need to have a conversation with her which will not be easy. She takes absolutely everything as a personal criticism I.e.
DM. I really like tuna and cucumber
Me. I think I actually prefer it with tomato.
DM. (Clenches teeth and sharp intake of breath through nose, hard stare followed by eye rolling.) Right then (silence for uncomfortably long time.
She is hard work, and any conversation is going to start a world war. She isn't into shouting, screaming and drama but there will be a horrible sulky silence for months. At the moment she isn't happy with me about something and she hasn't made eye contact with me for weeks. I will never know what the issue is until I demand to know. She doesn't volunteer any information about how she is feeling about me, but still insists on turning up several times a week! I would be happy with ONCE a week.
Has anyone ever had to ask for fewer visits from a difficult parent before? How did it go? And is it actually worth the fall out?
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How do you get space from a toxic dm?
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thepixiefrog · 13/06/2013 12:43
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