ex-DP and I want to give it another go, we got stuck in a rut before and split about 18 months ago....anyway after having quite a steamy reunion one afternoon, the spark is still very much there, so can it work?
Yes I think they can work if the issues that caused you to split are resolved. Well, I know they can because DH and I split for 6 months after 18 months together, and got married 4 years after that. Now been married 3 years. Anyway, don't base it all on the 'spark' still being there, whatever that means. You need to talk through and resolve all your previous issues and agree on what you both want for the future.
Thank you for your replies, we didn't really have many issues apart from him being in the army and me feeling like a non priority, he has got a posting closer and says he has grown up and wants to be a proper family
It never did for me. He kept promising he'd change and every time I bumped into him we'd give it another go after an extremely passionate reunion, but he'd be just the same- mean, foul mouthed and abusive.
Engaged, about to pick a venue for the wedding when then DB got cold feet and called it off. I discovered a week later that I weas pregnant, he went mad, didn't want to know and we didn't soeak to each other for the most of my pregnancy. gradually we started t talk again, and he used to come and stay with us when DS was a baby. Visits got more frewuent as DS got older, and then we went on a "family" holiday and got back together the weeknd after we came home, when DS was 2.5. After a few more months, he wanted us to move in with him, in another city. OK said I, but not without the security of a wedding ring. We married just after DS's 3rd birthday, have just had our 8th anniversary and have two more DC.
Buuut, the issues that caused the split - mainly his reluctance to settle down and cold feet - resolved over the few years when DS was a baby. I think if we had got back together immediately I discovered I was pregnant, it would have been doomed to fail.