I had severe PND with DD1. It was severe and people who i thought were helping such as MIL i believe made it worse.
MIL kept taking over with dd so i never had to do much. She first took her out when she was 5days old. Whenever we went to MIL she would feed, change, cuddle DE. basically took over but said she was helping.
I had severe depression and was second 18months later. MIL told dp to keep me away from her baby. Which never happened and dp and i cut off a bit from her.
As i had bad depression and people kept taking over. I couldn't bond.
I thought i did but now i have dd2 i know i never. I feel this big rush of love to dd2. Everything she does is amazing.
I had a bad pregnancy and labour ending in crash section with DD2. We both nearly died. DD1 was brought in to see us. DD1 pregnancy and labour was great. The pregnancy and labour i wanted again it was so perfect.
Since f2f has came along DD1 behaviour is really bad. She shouts,screams, hits, bites and back chat. She is behaving terribly. I want cope with her. Overtime i look at at her i feel nothing. I keep thinking it would be best to give her up. She never wanted me when she was a baby, she always wanted Mil.
I want to love her but dont know how. Is it to late? Have i messed her life up? Will it be best to allow her what she wants and to live with mil?
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I never bonded with DD1 and never realised until DD2 arrived.
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willieverloveher · 30/05/2013 22:39
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