I've always trusted dh from the time we met, 4 yrs ago, and in my naive way still do.
But I'm very angry because dh obviously does not trust me!
I wish I could say that I cheated on him or spent money unwisely or lie or threaten him in any way. But I don't do any of these things.
Sometimes I think I'm a bit too trusting, dh knows all my financial details, passwords, etc. I always felt he had my best interests at heart when we moved in together. Getting married changed nothing for him apparently. I contributed more than him in setting up family home, pay for my fair share of bills, etc. but I'm accused of begrudging his spending on his dc, as if I were some selfish monster (his ex, btw, but we are like chalk and cheese, there is absolutely no way to misinterpret my actions or words).
I also share on an emotional level and bring up my dc in the same way.
I'm hurt again and again now not only by dh secretive, selfish behaviour, but its affecting his dc now too. They don't share, they're greedy and cold.
We had a big row yesterday on how I want his support in teaching about sharing and caring. He made a small gesture and was praised for it.
But I'm not his mother. Why would I have to nag about basic human kindness.
I think its about trust, has anyone had similar experiences and how did you cope? Thanks.
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Ilikecandy · 27/05/2013 07:09
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