I just caught up with last night's thread as well.
You need to call Women's Aid, there is a link at the top of the page I think. They will help you with practical advice on how to do everything you need to do.
If you are still at your brother's then your husband won't be able to "come back" to you, will he?
Please remember one of the things someone said to you last night, when you feel up to it, reread the thread, because they told you some very wise things that you need, when you're feeling calmer, to get a hold of. If you don't end this relationship, this will not be the only time you come on here on a Friday night because you've been lamped.
Hi Longtime. I have no experience here but I was on last night's thread and wanted to say hello and tell you how glad I am to see you safe. Well done leaving him. It's such the right thing for you and your precious baby. People are here for you and many will have gone through the same thing. Take care
Involve as many people as you need to help you stay safe. A lot of people are afraid of social services but if you think he was going to hurt her and you say he has threatened to use her to keep you quiet then they can help you deal with him (as they woud be helping you to keep her safe from him). Womens Aid, Shelter, your local council, Gingerbread, your local domestic violence unit (they have officers specifically trained to deal with domestic violence and its lasting effects). To name but a few
Reach out, there is loads of help out there. With a bit of luck this shitbag man can be sent to prison for his attack on you; at the very least you will be able to get a court order keeping him out of your home as he is such a danger to you and your DD. And keep posting, there is lots of support on here as well.
I left my husband for DV four months ago. The difference is he had never and I am satisfied would never hurt the children. Social services have been involved, the police were brilliant. Have the police not been in touch today to update you about charges etc? I'm surprised if not - so they know where you are? If they do I would ring the police station and explain you'd like an update.
They offered to help me get an occupation order of family home but it was rented anyway and I didn't want to go back there. That is something you could look Ito - women's aid can also advise on that and housing options generally. I applied for council emergency housing but in the end I didn't need it as got a private rental. Being forced out to flee a DV incident which you can prove is all logged with the police would help you with that.
Have you given a proper statement? I told the police about previous incidents. They believed me.
The police got in touch earlier saying he was still in custody and would send someone round to go through what's happening next I'm just waiting for them now. I gave a full statement last night,and told them everything
I might ring for an update now I don't know where I stand to be honest
I am sorry this has happened to you. When this happened to me I contacted a solicitor who very quickly got a court order which prevented him from coming near me. This might give you time to consider your options. Best of luck
Make sure you take lots of photos of your injuries, including ones over the coming days showing the extent of the bruising. These will be helpful later for your solicitor and also if you have a bit of a wobble feeling sorry for him (I know I did when something similar happened to me as stupid as it sounds).
Also, if finances allows or if you have somewhere else to go I would hide there for a bit .. unless he doesn't know your brothers address?
Also get in touch with your local council and say you have been made homeless due to domestic violence and have a baby. They will give you advice and help.