Hi, Just started seeing the most amazing guy.... I'm turning 30 this year and he has just turned 25. He is really mature but I'm worried I'm a bit too old for him??? Please could I have your opinions? Thanks xx
That's not a huge gap! But if you see a future with him, you should make it clear to him if/when you would like to get married, start a family etc. Maybe a bit heavy for the start of the relationship, but most girls tend to find 30 as a landmark for thinking about all of these things, whereas boy often don't consider it at all! Enjoy & good luck.
five years isn't significant. it's whether he's on the same page as you or not. I'd be honest about what you want and when you would like it. At your age there's NO point saying that you just want to have funnnnnnnnn for the next ten years if really you'd like to get marrid and have a family.
Some men enjoy family life and would be happy to be part of that much earlier than others, my husband was more than ready to settle down at 30 and would have done so at about 25 if he hadn't been holding out for me
I think this is not related to age, plenty of older guys in their 30's/40's are still pretty commitment phobic, just see where it goes, he sounds nice.
I am 5 years older than dh. Met him when I was 32, married him at 33, had first child 34. He was 29 when he became a father and the youngest amongst his peers to have children. When we met, he was just starting out in his career and I was much further along. But now he outearns me. Our age difference was never an issue. Helps that I look younger than my age. Music and cultural references are the same.
It is great to be 5 years older than dh. Statistically (and touch wood), we will both die at around the same time.
I kind of agree and disagree that it's no age gap.
I don't think the actual gap is relevant at all. I guess it's just whether you want kids, does he and if it works out, would he work to your timescales.
My experience: ex much older, DP slightly younger (and I have belaboured the point about kids because I am really not convinced I want them but window is short and all that). I was pretty blatant with both on what I expected my life to look like in the future early doors. I actually think that's pretty important. Even if non-specific you can still ensure you are on broadly the same page.
My lovely, wonderful DP is 9 years younger than me, I'm 35. It works I do look younger than I am though. We have similar outlooks and interests which helps of course. Go for it, you've nothing to lose!