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Please remind me again how bad this is

(64 Posts)
spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 12:51:14

Posted about my boyfriend several times and received loads of excellent advice. i have only seen him once in 2 months because he just turned up. Every few weeks he becomes verbally abusive by text calling me a whore etc for having stayed in a past abusive relationship. he says i must have stayed for the lifestyle. Also he has said i don't deserve any sympathy because "if you breed with assholes shit happens. He has dumped me 5 times in a year but if i bring that up he points out he has proposed marriage so many more times. I am looking for the strength to say it must be over. because i haven't seen him in a while i am only thinking of the good times. He wants to see me this weekend and stupidly i really want so see him but haven't responded yet. Strength please. .

kotinka Mon 03-Jun-13 14:19:28

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DippyDoohDahDay Fri 24-May-13 08:13:06

Hi op...I have added a link below that I started before, it helped me to move away from twunt. Not sure how to directly link, if anyone else can?
Your ex does not deserve or need any reassurance from you. Everyone on here is saying the same thing to you. Each time you read his messages or engage, it allows him to dictate your emotions, your day..your mental health. Please don't underestimate the impact these kind of people can have on you...I started antidepressants because I could not navigate around my head fuck relationship.

Wolfiefan Thu 23-May-13 22:05:18

Sorry but he sounds just vile. You must not engage. You must get yourself to a position where you realise how completely unacceptable his behaviour is.
Good luck with the fence!

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 22:01:02

evenbetter i agree. Have spent hours working on the present perfect with him. the verb to have+participle boy ! Thankyou all lovely ladies.

SissySpacekAteMyHamster Thu 23-May-13 21:56:13

It might be difficult, but if you see a message has come in with his name on it, just delete it, don't read it. Don't let him mind fuck you. Just delete him from your life.

He really does seem like a self-indulgent arse, so it shouldn't be that difficult.

You need to realise that you are worth so much more than that.

Be strong. x

Lovingfreedom Thu 23-May-13 21:31:49

Well impressed that you're tackling fencing! Wow!! I give myself a pat on the back every time I get the Flymo out. Respect!..

MadBusLady Thu 23-May-13 21:10:04

Well done spirited. And good luck with the fence!

EvenBetter Thu 23-May-13 20:40:06

His use of 'should of' is a dumpable offence never mind the other tedious blathering on. Let him attention seek to someone else and bore off.
You should go on the Freedom course or at very least do an assertiveness course and/or counselling. Get a new SIM card.

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 20:13:26

that should be humanly and manage, ignore humble mange If anyone is out there

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 20:12:17

have ignored. i just switched my phone back on. Got a week now off work with just 2 kids, 2 away so going to try and be really productive, put up my own fence if humbly possible. I mean that literally and not figuratively btw smile but If i mange it i guess it will be a big 7ft symbol of something. Thanks so much for today.

vintagecakeisstillnice Thu 23-May-13 18:41:56

Sweetheart, does that last message not drill it in to you how fucked up in the head he is.

He can't believe that you dont want him, what ya mean??????

So of course that means you must be seeing someone else 'cause after all a woman cant be happy without a man.

Ignore ignore ignore

captainmummy Thu 23-May-13 18:18:48

What is wrong with the guy? 'Happy with whoever you are fucking?' ???What can you say to that ??(NOTHING!) - it's none of his business what you do. Or who.

He is trying to get a rise out of you.

Def. block.

ShipwreckedAndComatose Thu 23-May-13 16:58:24

Keep posting here! Do not engage wit him...he is trying to get you to respond!

You really do deserve so much better than this twunt. He sounds like a prize charmer hmm

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 16:56:45

Thanks. . I haven't replied anyway

McBalls Thu 23-May-13 16:56:00

Call your network provider and block that way.
He will only keep on if he gets something, anything, back from you.
The choice is yours whether to engage or not. And really, if you're still tempted or finding lame excuses to continue (not necessarily in the relationship, but just any form of contact) then you really need to start seriously concentrating on your own's not normal to want to continue with this sort of shit.

colditz Thu 23-May-13 16:51:50

Look, it's no good us yelling at you to avoid the abusive cunt like the plague if you are going to make excuses like " my phone is too full to download the app to block him with"

You know what we used to do before smartphones? Switch it off. Switch it off and leave it switched off. You can do it.

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 16:51:02

Trying. . Shit Samsung ace

MadBusLady Thu 23-May-13 16:50:08

He sounds totally out of his tree. If you can't block, think of his rantings as you would any other random nutter who suddenly decided to pepper you with abuse.

flippinada Thu 23-May-13 16:49:32

Wyatt? Of course I mean what.

flippinada Thu 23-May-13 16:48:32

Wyatt you need to do is delete some apps you don't use and make space for an app that blocks numbers. It's quite straightforward.

Lovingfreedom Thu 23-May-13 16:48:20

You could change your number. There is seriously no reason for engaging with this pathetic creep any longer. Really.

flippinada Thu 23-May-13 16:46:19

I mean this in the kindest way - STOP ENGAGING!

Sorry for shouting but really, there is no obligation for you to communicate with him. Any response from you he will see as encouragement. So just don't.

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 16:43:32

My phone won't block. . And too full to install an App which will

spiritedaway Thu 23-May-13 16:42:34

Just posting on here to avoid texting him back. . Feel like defending myself and reassuring him there is nobody else.

flippinada Thu 23-May-13 16:42:28

Seriously, block and delete. You will feel so much better if you don't have to read his nonsense.

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