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Relationships

how long til you got married?

66 replies

boomboomfirepower · 23/05/2013 08:33

Just wondering really, started seeing a guy and I'm pretty sure I'm gonna end up marrying him!

How long were you with your boyfriend/girlfriend before you got married?

Im dying to hear loads of happy stories!

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CaptainJamesTKirk · 23/05/2013 08:35

12 years!

Met at 18, moved in together at 20, engaged at 28, married at 30, DS at 32. Been a couple for 18 years now.

Gigondas · 23/05/2013 08:37

Engaged after 6 months (but knew we wanted to be together from early weeks) and married after a year.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty · 23/05/2013 08:39

married him 3 months after I met him.

Been lumbered with him 15 years and counting

CorrStagnitto · 23/05/2013 08:42

Oooh i could have written this OP, ive met someone too who i would marry in a heart beat but its very early days and i feel a bit daft for even thinking that!

will stick around to hear the happy stories

Karbea · 23/05/2013 08:43

Engaged after 4 months, Married after 8 months after meeting him.

BunnyLebowski · 23/05/2013 08:44

12 ridiculously happy years but not married.

And just as valid a relationship as those who are y'know

boomboomfirepower · 23/05/2013 08:44

Corr its awesome and scary isn't it!

It's nice to hear those who got married quick and are still together!

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memphis83 · 23/05/2013 08:47

Will be 5 years when we get married. But we knew and talked about how we wanted to be married and have kids from very early on.

Jayne266 · 23/05/2013 08:54

Been together 6 years got engaged after 1 year and married after 2 years

QueenofWhispers · 23/05/2013 09:06

he asked me to marry him the day we met (as students at an international university competition) I was 17 and he was 18.

I said 'yes' immediately. We did have to finish Uni before we got married, took us 4 years from start to finish. (I'm American) and he had to have a stable job for 12 months before my father gave him permission.

we've been married almost 7 years now, but have been together about 12 years. :)

GemmaTeller · 23/05/2013 09:07

20 years

chickabilla · 23/05/2013 09:10

5 years but we were only 20/21 and at uni when we got together. Married nearly 8 years now.

AuntieStella · 23/05/2013 09:12

18 months. After 6 we both knew we were serious. Formal engagement after another 6, wedding 6 months after that. 21 years ago.

PiHigh · 23/05/2013 09:14

About 18 months, got engaged after about 9 months. Been married for nearly 9 years.

ALittleStranger · 23/05/2013 09:22

Queenofwhispers I can't decide if you're nuttier for saying yes to a man you'd just met, or for actually waiting for permission from your father!

Threads like this are fun but pointless. For everyone saying three months there will be someone else saying 20 years. It very much depends on your personality types and also life stages. I'd bet there are far more quick engagements around the 30-40 mark!

Weegiemum · 23/05/2013 09:27

Met at 18/19

Started going out at 19/20

Engaged at 23

Married/moved in together at 24

Been married 18 years.

I don't know when I was sure, but dh says he was freaked out when we'd been together for about 3 weeks and I was getting excited about something and the thought went through his head "this is the woman I want to be he mother of my children". And I am - had dd1 in 2000 (both 29), ds in 2002 and dd2 (and a vasectomy ) in 2003.

FryOneFatManic · 23/05/2013 09:44

ermmm, there's always a wide variety of timings.

Met DP when I was 18, moved in when 21, still with him at nearly 45 never married and 2DCs aged 13 and 9.

As we all want different things, there's never going to be consistency on these sort of events.

Squitten · 23/05/2013 09:45

We had been together for nearly 5yrs and been living together for 2yrs when he propsed and we got married the following year. 6th wedding anniversary (and 3 kids) this autumn

Lweji · 23/05/2013 09:55

1.5 years till he proposed and a total of 3 until we got married.

When he proposed I gave a conditional yes, as there were some ishoos. With hindsight, I should have ended it there.
Oh well.

But if it feels right for you, then it probably is. :)

KittyVonCatsworth · 23/05/2013 10:05

My DP asked me to marry him on our first date! We'd been friends for a few months prior to our first date. I'm not a slushy romantic, having been burned a few times before and one failed marriage, but I knew that night I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him.

OryxCrake · 23/05/2013 10:07

25 years

MerylStrop · 23/05/2013 10:10

4 and 1/2 years
with a baby boy beforehand

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QueenofWhispers · 23/05/2013 10:39

alittlestranger

I would have married him anyway, regardless of what my father said but it was nice to make him feel included.

mum23girlys · 23/05/2013 10:49

Met in November and moved in together in the January. Engaged in the June and married in the September. Twins arrived in the May

We like to take our time

Been married 9 years and now have 3 beautiful girls. I just knew pretty early on that we were right together

MediumExpectations · 23/05/2013 10:53

Went out for a date on the Thursday. Knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lives together and ended previous LTR on the Friday ( whoops one day overlap).
Got married nearly 3 years later.
That was 30 years ago and I am still crazy about her
Maybe we are just lucky

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