All i want in life is to have a house, have a husband and have a baby.
I am living with my bf in his parents house, i can't stand it anymore. I get no space, no time to myself, cant cook without my partners mum looking over my shoulder. They drink a lot and can be very loud, always have music on which comes straight up into our room. Think living with neighbour from hell.
Next: bf and I have been together 3 years. He knows I want to be engaged/married but he says he wants a house first.
All my friends are married or have a house or a baby or all three. I feel like I am dragging behind.
My parents do not live in the UK but came over a few weeks ago and viewed some property and put an offer in on a house. The idea was me and my partner would live in it and pay rent then maybe in 5-10 years my parents would come back and it'd be their retirement home.
The seller has been a nightmare and now the sale has fallen through.
I am miserable. I had all my hopes set on this. I was so happy me and my partner would finally be on our own to start our real life. I also thought the next stage would then be marriage and baby.
All of this has come tumbling down. I cant get a mortgage yet because i have a couple of defaults on my account and i have no savings for a deposit. my partner has his own business but only 1.5 years of books and also no savings so we have no deposit. When i looked into a mortgage on my own even with defaults there was only one lender willing to lend on a property min val 90k but only a 70% mortgage so i'd have to have 27k...how am i going to get that? It will take years.
My parents wont be looking again, it was a spur of the moment kind of thing so now i am on my own and dont know what to do.
My plan has all gone to pot and i really dont see the point in living. Everyone else seems to have it all.
I have just sat here crying for 2 hours.
I know people say if it wasn't meant to be it wasn't meant to be but that's not good enough! When i found out about what was happening with the seller as i was driving home from work thinking about just speeding and coming off the road. I really do not see how my life will get better and the things I want to happen will take so long I don't want to be miserable for years before it all happens.
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Don't see the point in living
DrHolmes · 22/05/2013 19:44
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