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Child care?

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pinkhalf Sun 19-May-13 19:44:36

I need some help with my DH.

We share childcare of our 14 month DD pretty well. I am part time worker and so take care of her during the week. The weekend is where there is an issue. I used to intervene if I thought something was going wrong but he resented me for it and we argued. I was a know it all. I was always right and he couldn't do anything. Okay, I backed off.

I know no one is born a pro and I have tried sitting back and letting the consequences flow, but the consequences are impacting me and DD. Last night she woke a few times and was difficult to settle. My DH got up to settle her, switched on the lights in her room, and talked to her. I mean he did this more than once! DD really uninterested in sleeping as a result! In the morning, DD is really tired. I am tired. DH in bed until 1230.

Yesterday I went to meet some friends at a restaurant and asked him to feed DD. Her lunch was in the fridge. He turned up at the restaurant later and she had not had lunch, instead he suggested she eat from our plates. DD did not like the food on offer and was hungry.

He's an intelligent man and has been under stress recently, but I don't understand this. It's almost as if he's deliberately making a bog up of it or doesn't think ahead.

I know it sounds very minor, but I am worried about him. These actions are stupid, and he's not anything of the kind. I would put this in AIBU, but I think this a relationship thing, really.

CarpeVinum Mon 20-May-13 09:25:15

It's almost as if he's deliberately making a bog up of it or doesn't think ahead.

That isn't unknown as a stratagy to make sure the requests to pull wieght dry up.

It might be worth you two making time when everybody is free in the house strictly a team effort taking care of child wise. Like putting stabalisers on a bike, it gives him the possibility of a learning curve and watching his reaction to that might shed some light on what is behind the ball dropping.

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