My husband is a twat I know that much but I don't know if this has entered the realms of EA or I should just stop analysing things and just LTB
it's basically about the condition of the house, which is owned by MIL but rented by us. It was a dive when I moved in and slowly I've been doing it up as husband has protested against every brush stroke in the house and plant planted in the garden. We have children and the husband along with them is just one monumental mess maker. We both work full time but he still expects me to be a little housewife. All housework and cooking and mending and ferrying around of the children he sees as my job.
At the weekends I don't go at the housework hammer and tongs but it gets done while pottering about and relaxing. Yet husband sees fit to tell MIL and his friends that the mess is my doing and that he is the only one who does any work around the home. I'm sick of it. If I leave it to him to do it never gets done and then it gets worse and the comments from him get worse. He is always saying that he feels embarrassed he can't have people over, that he thinks we should just be able to maintain it and it shouldn't be a big job to do...note the use of 'we' there...
If you talk to him and MIL the house was, apparently, spotless before I moved in. It wasn't. It was a hovel with cracked walls, mouldy carpets and cobwebs in every corner. It was revolting. Now it's a home not a pile of shitty bricks and crap colour schemes.
Now my gripe isn't about the housework it's about the constant snipes, undermining and snarky comments he feels fit to make to everyone. I don't know why he can't just admit he has a hand in it and the family home should be managed by us as a family. I am now at the point I can't talk to him, he won't listen, I'm done with it really.
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Is this EA or is he just a twat?
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Souredstones · 19/05/2013 12:23
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