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What do you do with gifts your ex gave you?

(35 Posts)
superstarheartbreaker Sat 18-May-13 08:25:47

These gifts were greatly apprechiated at the time but now feel false and insincere. Also I can't really bear to look at them. It is so tempting to send them back but that is just childish isn't it? Has anyone ever sent gifts back? It's a bit of a slap in the face isn't ir? which is secretly what I want!

welliesandpyjamas Sat 18-May-13 08:26:55

Chari shop

welliesandpyjamas Sat 18-May-13 08:27:16

Or even a charity shop! Oops

Mosman Sat 18-May-13 08:27:23

I'm selling my wedding and engagement rings. In 10 years that is about all I've acumulated which speaks volumes tbh

SirSugar Sat 18-May-13 08:29:44

here you go......

mikkii Sat 18-May-13 08:32:12

I kept everything. My husband knows this, but only because the ex was really good at buying presents. Things get used or worn occasionally. Wore something recently bought by ex and DH said "did I buy that?" With a glint in his eyes, so I knew he knew he hadn't. Having said that, I'm talking about jewellery, handbags and a coat, not cuddly toys.

We've been married for 11 years and together for 13 years. I was with the ex for 15 years.

superstarheartbreaker Sat 18-May-13 08:37:35

I have an ipod. i want to keep it deep down....its just the soppy card that went with it. The sentiment is now all bollocks. Bin?

CogitoErgoSometimes Sat 18-May-13 08:44:29

E-Bay.. smile

StuffezLaYoni Sat 18-May-13 08:44:35

I keep the gifts if they are of any use to me but the trash I threw away. (Think poundland plastic, skull shaped cocktail mixer, missing its cap, that was my 21st birthday present.)
The cards I bin as the sentiments behind them were lies.

StuffezLaYoni Sat 18-May-13 08:45:39

Keep the iPod as you can still eat enjoyment from it! Bin the twatty card though.

StuffezLaYoni Sat 18-May-13 08:45:56


Lovingfreedom Sat 18-May-13 09:57:35

I've made a point of throwing away all presents from my ex and his family....unless it's something I like wink

Polyethyl Sat 18-May-13 10:31:07

I'm keeping the jewellery in case my daughter wants it.

(She's the offspring of my happy marriage not the ghastly ex who it turned out was only with me for the better mortgage rates he could get with my help.)

ladyjadie Sat 18-May-13 12:55:57

Bin/burn (safely)

ChubbyKitty Sat 18-May-13 13:34:35

I got a GameCube and a DS Lite. I kept them until I move house and we didn't need duplicates. Then I sold them.

Jewellery was always cheap crap so I chucked it, and cuddly toys got given to charity.

Lavenderhoney Sat 18-May-13 14:20:22

I still have gifts I was given. The were some from many years ago, long before dh and he doesn't really know. I don't say " ooh, think I will wear the Gucci watch x gave me" I just have them.

If I really hated them I would have sold them. Still an option.

My bf just before dh was very generous and occasionally sent me jewellery from tiffanys even though we spilt due to his working abroad ( and being a a workaholic ) until I asked him to stop as I had met someone. I think I was his back upsmile he didnt want them back, so I said I would keep them for a rainy day.

KittensandKids Sat 18-May-13 14:27:45

I lost my wedding ring, took it off and put it in my purse and lost it, I threw out everything else, wedding presents etc, gave them to freecycle.

Playerpleeease Sat 18-May-13 14:38:03

I throw them, about ten minutes after we've split usually grin I just can't bear them to be around me even if I really like/need/want them. I threw hunter wellies, microwave hmm, necklace, purse, books, iPod nano, earrings away in front of XP as he was packing his bags to leave, he'd only given them to me a week previously. Plus new stuff he'd brought to decorate the house, pillows, candles bedding etc. He was shock he tried to take some of the expensive stuff.......but, I wrecked them so he couldn't blush

Might not of been my finest hour but it felt good!

I couldn't keep anything, makes me feel weird when people do.

MirandaWest Sat 18-May-13 14:49:12

I will get round to selling my engagement ring but when I do should I give XH half of the value? Am undecided (haven't discussed this with him of course)

cherrybakewall Sat 18-May-13 16:30:10

Jewellery given by exH I have left to our DS in my will. I still wear earrings he bought me that I really like. Engagement ring from ex fiance (before exH) left in will to DSD because she likes it. I offered it back to him when we split but he said "what would I do with it?" so I kept it.

Scruffey Sat 18-May-13 16:33:43

Charity shop for me (never had anything of value given to me)

However if valuable, sell on eBay or take to jewellery shop to be sold.

Scruffey Sat 18-May-13 16:35:35

Miranda I think that the giving back of engagement rings/proceeds morally applies only when the marriage doesn't actually happen.

RiotsNotDiets Sat 18-May-13 16:38:21

Does anyone know if you can sell wedding rings that are engraved? (I'm guessing I'd only be able to sell them to be melted and made into something else?

GoingUpInTheWorld Sat 18-May-13 16:42:07

An ex just sent me a text one day saying we werent right for each other. No explanation no nothing. Wouldnt answer his phone or anything.

I did eventually get a response, but it was the usual shit of its me not you etc.

However a couple of months earlier he had bought me an original tiffany and co necklace and bracelet set for my birthday.

I tried to sell it when he dumped me but was told they come with a certificate and if i wanted any real value for it, it was best sold with the certificate.

So i texted the ex asking for the original certificate as i wanted to sell it.

He texted back saying he threw the certificate away when having a clear out. I knew that was rubbish, but it made me smile when i thought of how he might be thinking i had a bloody cheek!

I sold it on ebay for £40

postmanpatscat Sat 18-May-13 17:07:57

Cash Converters

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