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Friend never replies to texts if I texts her....

(12 Posts)
LordSugar Thu 16-May-13 19:09:13

....but expects replies when she texts me.

It's got to the stage where I don't bother texting her anymore, as she never replies. Then when she wants to do something or wants to tell me something she texts and if I don't reply instantly she gets quite uppity and I get several stroppy "Did you get my last text??" type messages.

I know it's only a small thing but it's really bugging me and actually making me not to want to bother with her again as she doesn't seem to respect me much.

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 16-May-13 19:10:37

So tell her how you feel.

LordSugar Thu 16-May-13 19:12:02

I don't think she'd take it very well. Also what do I do? Arrange a meet up to tell her how I feel?

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 16-May-13 19:14:18

So how she feels is more important than how you feel? You are so concerned with protecting her feelings but she's not showing that she gives a shit about yours, is she? So what will you lose?

HotCrossPun Thu 16-May-13 19:14:28

You should just speak to her about it if it's bothering you.

Mirroring her frustrating behavior will just become exhausting.

HotCrossPun Thu 16-May-13 19:15:30

I don't think it needs to be a really formal, serious chat.

Just say to her the next time you see her, don't make a big deal out of it.

TheOrchardKeeper Thu 16-May-13 19:16:30

Waste of energy.

Drop her wine

LordSugar Thu 16-May-13 19:17:05

It's not so much that I'm concerned with protecting her feelings. It's more that she will go off like a bottle of pop, and flounce off and never speak to me again and moan about me to mutual friends and cause a huge issue.

Lavenderhoney Thu 16-May-13 19:20:25

You could text back and say if its urgent and you need a reply straight away please call me ( as I am not 12 and do not sit on by phone waiting for you)

ImTooHecsyForYourParty Thu 16-May-13 19:22:41

I'd still tell her.

Moaning about you can't hurt you in any way. I am sure that she is the same with everyone and they'd probably all think well, it's about time SOMEONE said something!

RooneyMara Thu 16-May-13 19:34:24

I wouldn't bother to tell her face to face.

I have a friend who does this - I used to text pretty often, with helpful things, questions, ideas, anything really like you normally do with a friend.

She just used to ignore them most of the time. recently she has started to text and call quite a lot and I've been ignoring as I know she'll want a favour and I have a new baby. She seems to have got the message, just, when I saw her in person (was trying to avoid) and she asked me if we could get together and I said, no, I am far, far too busy.

I made a big thing of saying how sorry I was and how it didn't mean I don't like her any more, till she was practically running away, saying 'it's fine, no, really, no pressure'.

Have not heard from her since. Result

MysteriousHamster Thu 16-May-13 19:42:59

Just to say I'm crap at texts but much better in person. Some people just don't get on with their phones - I love being online but phones not so much.

But if she's expecting immediate texts back, then that's rude. So I'd bring it up.

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