I posted about him when we split up two months ago. It was me who broke up with him, mostly because of our age difference and just being at different stages in our lives. No infidelity, no EA/DV, on either side.
He's an all round great bloke who's never been one to play games, and this is why I'm a bit confused now.
When I was telling him I had to end it, he told me he loved me at least twice, and then he made a point of asking me to please not contact him to give him time and space to get over it. I understand and respected that so I didn't contact him at all.
Anyway, he tried to call me a couple of times last week. I'd deleted his number so it came up as a number I didn't know so I let it go to VM. He didn't leave a message the first time, second time he did and said he was going to email me.
In his email he told me he still loved me, told me he wanted to do whatever it took to make me happy, basically he was saying whatever our problems have been we can find ways to work through them.
I wrote back saying I really didn't think there was a way to work things out and it was over for me. He then replied two days later with a complete u-turn, saying how he's dealt with how he feels about me (was still in love with me 48 hours prior !) and now is ready to be just good friends and he'd really like us to stay in contact if I wanted that too.
I'm actually not ready to be friends with him, although I would like us to be friends in the future, because I do still have feelings for him and I'm working on getting over him. How has he managed to to go from being in love with me to just wanting friendship so fast? Is this some sort of red flag I should be concerned about?
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Not sure what's going on with my ex
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MostFamousMonkey · 16/05/2013 12:30
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